Weekend Policy

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This weekend, I remembered what it is like to relax over a weekend. Most of the time, I see weekends as a time to catch up on everything that I didn’t get done over the previous week. I had not fully realized what a perfectly terrible home-brew recipe for exhaustion and frustration that has been. Until now.

Quite by accident, I ended up doing mostly nothing this weekend. And I liked it.

A busy, no-lunch kinda day on Friday, a high school football game, and a late dinner of only soup out at a pub where they have some of my favorite micro-brews made for a bit of a headache on Saturday morning. Yep, I admit it. Nothing terrible, but enough that my sweet beau suggested we skip our plans for tennis and snuggle in for a Sopranos marathon. This was just what I have been needing. Nothingness. It felt decadent. And fun. And restful. I think I almost forgot what decadent and fun and restful felt like.

Not so long ago, everyone knew that weekends were supposed to be time to refuel and “re-create” our energy after working hard all week. When did weekends become such a drain?

I always imagine that I will feel better if I can get a little bit of work done. Or another load of laundry. Or clean out the basement. But it is an illusion. I never feel so much better that I can then relax. There is always more work to do.

I think a new Weekend Policy is called for here – a declaration that weekends must include plenty of nothingness. Like napping. And watching movies. And hanging out. I will still have to get the kids to games and activities, but maybe I can really focus on not checking email, not catching up on work, and making sure I do something that is really restorative with my family. Something that sets the weekends apart from the weekdays.

If I want to slow the pace of our lives down, I can start with making weekends more restful. I guess it is pathetic that I have to make a new Weekend Policy to relax, but that is just the way I am. I don’t sit still a lot. I want to get things done. I worry about how I can fit everything in because I am very aware that we only have a finite amount of time, today, tomorrow, and in our lives. Relaxing just doesn’t come naturally to me. I need a plan.

From now on, I am going to try to see that fitting nothingness into our weekends is a priority too. I want to remember that nothingness is actually something that will get me where I want to go – to a state of rejuvenation which will make me and my family better able to dive into everything that has to get done during the coming week.

Next weekend, we have a garage sale planned, baseball tryouts, a lacrosse clinic, a football game, AND a neighborhood block party. This is not exactly an optimal debut for my new Weekend Policy, but I have to start somewhere. Having intentions is the only way to get going toward what I really want. After all, the destination, as well as the journey, is going to be plenty perfect.

Are your weekends jam-packed or restful?

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9 Comments

  1. Tammy Reply

    I absolutely LOVE my “nothing” weekends! My husband is a work-a-holic and he makes me feel guilty when he is home if I am not up doing something! So when he is not home (staying at the ranch for the weekend or visiting his family out of state) I tend to have many “nothing” days! I feel soooo much better when I can sit around watch what I want to watch, eat when I want to eat, stay up as late or as little as I want, have no noise and read a book, etc.. Thank you for confirming what I already believed! Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy having a clean house, all of the laundry done, the yard looking great, etc.. I just need “me” time once in a while! :)

    • annie kip Reply

      Good for you finding a way to get what you need – and resisting the guilty feeling. We all need different things to re-energize and replenish ourselves. It is particularly hard for extroverts (people who replenish their energy by being with people) to understand introverts (people who replenish their energy from alone time)!!!

  2. Rita@thissortaoldlife Reply

    Dang. Reading this after a horrible weekend. I don’t know how to get done the things that truly need to get done and have time for nothingness, much as I want some. Still playing catch-up.

    http://www.thissortaoldlife

    • annie kip Reply

      Oh Rita – so sorry to hear you had a bad weekend. I hate that feeling. So much! I have to tell you that is how I feel more often than not. There is never enough time to get everything done. I am rushing the kids or ignoring them, and nothing feels right. I don’t know where to start, but I really am going to try to let things go more, because it is never going to get done anyway. Maybe it is just this phase of our lives. I hope this week goes better for you.

      • annie kip Reply

        Hey Rita – I have been thinking about your comment a lot and wrote a little more about it tonight. I don’t have nearly enough “nothingness” in my life, but I tried to figure out how it happens when I do find it. I hope your week is going better!

        • Rita@thissortaoldlife Reply

          Am back seeing this for the first time tonight–if that tells you anything about this week. I do think it’s this phase of life. Being a single mom (because I still am, even though I live with someone) is just really time-consuming. Maybe we can figure some things out together? Hope you had a good week–

          http://www.thissortaoldlife

          • annie kip

            Yes, Rita – I do feel like we are figuring things out together here. It helps to be with kindred spirits! I love reading your blog and seeing how you make your life work with your kids and Cane. I know it must not be easy and all arrangements have their trade-offs. Time is the biggest challenge – I never feel like there is enough. We can only keep trying to allocate in a way that supports what we really care about and try to not be distracted by all of the other stuff.

  3. Jonathan Kurker Reply

    Nice post honey! Really enjoyed doing ‘nothing’ with you-I think it is important to have time to do nothing.

    • annie kip Reply

      Thank you for encouraging me to enjoy the nothingness! I would not have done it without you!!!

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