Favorite Things Friday: Authentic Personal Style

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I loved working at Nike and Polo Ralph Lauren and learned so much from the interesting and incredibly stylish people I had the pleasure of working with in both companies, but I have to confess that I felt a lot of pressure to fit in.

At Nike Design, I worked with professional athletes and incredibly cool, funky people who wore vintage, designer, or edgy clothing, custom eye-glasses, and really great shoes. I fit in as best as I could and tried not be intimidated.

At Ralph Lauren, everyone dressed as if they were from very old, very wealthy families. It was as if everyone just came to work because they needed a diversion from riding horses and reading in their wood-paneled library all day, wearing houndstooth plaid jackets and crocodile loafers. In reality, Ralph was probably the only person who actually lived this way.

Those years at Nike and Ralph Lauren, were all about paying attention, learning about details, fabrics and clothing styles, and figuring out how the elements that appealed to me could be incorporated into my own unique look.  It has taken me a long time to get comfortable with my own personal style, and there are still plenty of days when I feel unsure about how I look, but I keep exploring to find that sweet spot where I feel comfortable and special at the same time.

I have learned that style is not about choosing a designer look to emulate. Personal style is about putting together a lifestyle, a home, and a wardrobe that works for you and makes you feel good. It is the picture you create when you pick the way you live, the possessions you choose to have in your home, and the clothing you wear. It is the way people think of you and how you position your “personal brand” – whether you mean to or not. Personal style is the one thing that we have total control over and one of the most important tools we have for connecting with other people. Authentic personal style comes from being brave enough to be the most and the best YOU that you can be in every way.

Do you think about your personal style?  What do you wear to feel the most “you”?

Favorite Things Friday: Crystals and Rainbows and Unicorns

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Just kidding. I don’t like unicorns. I don’t even think they are real.

I do like crystals, but not in a hippy, wear it around your neck to ward off bad spirits sort of way.

I just like them because they are glass. Really pretty glass.

And they make really awesome rainbows. Which can’t be a bad thing, right?

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I have heard that crystals can help circulate the Ch’i – which is a Chinese word meaning life force energy - in your home. Nobody wants stagnant Ch’i. Maybe it’s true, maybe it’s not. I certainly don’t want to take any chances with my Ch’i.

Apparently, there are all kinds of things that can help circulate Ch’i – just look around the next time you are in a Chinese food restaurant or nail salon. There will probably be twirly things, or bells, or mirrors – OR crystals – right above the door and near the cash register area. Maybe they are on to something.

There is a Chinese saying, “If you want change in your life, move 27 things in your home.” Moving things gets the Ch’i moving. You could also try hanging up a crystal. Even if all of this is hogwash, having a really pretty glass thing that makes rainbows hanging in your room certainly can’t be a bad thing!

Decorating In Vignettes

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My home reflects the life I live here with my family. We have an eclectic mix of things and I switch things around whenever I feel like it (which, according to my children, is all the time). I love living with things which speak to me and make me happy whenever I look at them – handmade children’s artwork, found items, candles, sticks, books, beautiful fabrics, rocks and always a few sparkly things which I keep just because they tickle my fancy!

To prevent my small house from looking cluttered, I decorate in “vignettes” – small displays which are appealing and visually balanced. Vignettes give focus to a room and your eye a place to rest.

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The vignette above works for me in the following ways:

Mix of old and new items:

Rocks, pottery pot for the plant, wooden plank mirror, and handmade clay box vs.

crystal sphere lamp, crystal bowl, green plant, and shiny wooden hand

Contrasting textures:

Smooth, clear, shiny crystal vs. rough, thick, handmade, clay and pottery

Shiny, reflective mirror vs. rough wooden plank frame.

Heavy rocks vs. smooth, delicate glass bowl.

Balanced visual weight:

Heavy books underneath light crystal bowl holding heavy rocks.

Light crystal lamp next to heavy pottery pot.

Lamp, plant, hand and handmade clay pot across from stack of books, crystal bowl, rocks and artwork.

Large, heavy wooden plank mirror behind large but light crystal lamps.

Shorter, thicker plant in between tall lamp and tall wooden hand.

White lamp shade across from white mat in wall artwork.

Balanced heights:

Asymmetrical balance of tall, columnar lamp across from bowl propped up on stack of thick books.

Mini-vignette made with asymmetrical combination of thin, tall wooden hand, short, squat handmade clay pot, and medium size plant.

Height of lamp balances height of artwork on wall.

The same objects in a different configuration just don’t feel as settled to me.

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And this is just not very interesting…

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Decorating really comes down to what feels good to you. Looking at your possessions should bring joy to your heart – not make you tired. Following William Morris’ advice to “live with nothing you do not know to be useful or believe to be beautiful,” is a great way to make sure your possessions do not weigh you down or make you feel out of balance. I am continually looking through my things and passing them on when they no longer serve me.  It seems to me that balance is the key to so many things in life – why not make sure what you look at in your home makes you feel balanced and happy!?

Do you think about this when you decorate or does it come naturally to you?

NO-SEW (Seriously!!!) Window Valance

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As is often the case in my plenty perfect life, I have been living with a window valance in my upstairs bathroom – that, ahem, doesn’t exactly match the towels. I got all excited about my new bathroom towels about 6 months ago and never made a matching window treatment. Until now!

This is another one of my “No Sew” creations. Just so you know, I do know the correct way to make this window valance. If it were done right, it would be made with the proper lining, interfacing, invisible, hand-hemmed turn-backs, etc. – but this is a cheating version. Knowing the right way to do something is necessary to find the best ways to cheat – and I have lots of ways to cheat! – none of which will make you feel quite as frisky as an illicit affair or writing off a vacation as a business expense – but almost.

For this project, you will need:

1 yard of fabric

Stitch-Witchery

Scissors

Steam Iron

1” x 3” (approximately) board the length of your window casing

“L” brackets

Drill, screws

Staple gun, 3/8” staples

Note: Decorator fabric is usually at least 54” wide. If you want to make a valance for a window wider than about 36”, you will need to adapt this to fit your needs. Feel free to ask a question in the comments if you need more help.

Step 1: Press all folds and wrinkles out of your fabric.

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Step 2: With “wrong” sides together, fold fabric in half lengthwise OR fold it so that a few inches of fabric extends beyond the other.

The side that extends will be the “right” side or face fabric (the side which will show) and the side which is shorter will be the “wrong” side or the back of the valance (the side which will not show). Look at the side of the fabric which will show and make sure that you have folded the fabric at a place that looks good and that it makes a straight line across the pattern on the “right” side.

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Step 2: Press selvedges inward to the edge of the pattern on the fabric.

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Step 3: Use Stitch-Witchery to seal seams together on sides and across top.

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To seal the top seam, I used a lot of small pieces of Stitch-Witchery to conserve materials and because this seam will not show once it is stapled to the board.

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Step 4: Fold your fabric in half from selvedge to selvedge. Make sure that the center of your fabric is the center of the pattern showing on the “right” side. (My fabric was printed just slightly off, so I had to adjust my “center”.) Snip a small triangle of fabric from the fold at the top edge so you will know where your center is.

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Step 5: Measure your board, divide the length in half, and mark the center on your board.

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This is where you will start stapling.

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Step 6: Measure the width (the depth it will be sticking out from the wall) of your board. Subtract this amount from each side of your fabric and make a little mark or small cut with your scissors.

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Fold fabric back toward the “wrong” side at this measurement and press.

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The fabric between these two fold now has to be pleated to fit on your board. This does not have to be exact, but use the pattern of your fabric to dictate where your folds are placed so that it looks good on the “right” side.

You can use the board to help you work out the best place for your pleats in a trial and error sort of way or use a yardstick. I measured my fabric between the side folds and subtracted the length of the board. This told me that I had 12 inches of fabric to pleat, so I made a 3” pleat (which took up 6” of fabric) on each side of the center. I picked a spot for the pleats which worked with the pattern of my fabric.

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You can do several pleats, inverted or outward – whatever works with your fabric. I settled on one big box pleat in the middle. As long as it looks good, there is no wrong way to do this.

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Step 7: Once you have determined the best placement and depth for your pleats, press them with the iron.

Step 8: Begin stapling fabric to the board, starting at the center and moving toward the sides. The fabric should wrap around to the back side of the board.

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Stop stapling about 5” from the end of the board. This will allow you room to finish the ends.

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Step 9: To square off the corner, turn your board upside down and fold the fabric into a triangle (sort of like making a bed) and staple.

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Turn the valance “right” side out again. The corner of your fabric should be snug to the corner of the board and hang at a right angle.SONY DSC

Step 10: Screw in the “L” brackets to your window casing and then attach the valance. I find it is easiest if I put the “L” brackets up first, and then rest the valance on top to attach it.

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Step 11: Pour yourself a glass of wine, draw a nice warm bubble bath, and lay in the tub admiring your handiwork!

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…and how nicely your new window valance matches your bath towels!!!

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P.S. If you are having trouble keeping the sides squared to the window casing, your can make use of yet another one of my ways to cheat – use double stick tape to keep the sides from flapping out. No one will ever know!

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Obsessing About: Sphere Chandeliers

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I just have to confess how much I have been thinking about sphere chandeliers lately. You have probably seen me at the grocery store and thought we had a really nice conversation, but no – the whole time, I was thinking about sphere chandeliers. We may have played tennis and you have wondered why I am having so much trouble concentrating – it’s the sphere chandelier dangling in my head. I get going on some work on my computer and, what do you know, I find myself cruising the web looking for sphere chandeliers.

I think I have it handled. It isn’t a problem. Yet.

As you know, I love spheres. I love all kinds of things made in the shape of spheres.  I love the circular, endlessness of spheres. I love how everything is completely, evenly connected in a sphere. I love how there is no beginning and no end to sphere. I love how a great meal and leisurely conversation with good friends can give you that same feeling. So I guess it just makes sense that a giant sphere chandelier would become the one and only thing I want hanging in my dining room.

I love them ALL! The problem is that I can’t find just one I love – with a price I love.

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3469617 Bellacor Simpatico3456753-AP Bellacor crystal globe

I don’t think this obsession is going to pass anytime soon. I know it isn’t really a “need,” but I need a sphere dining room chandelier.

Do you love your dining room chandelier?

 

All of the images of sphere chandeliers in this post came from www.bellacor.com.

You can also see more sphere chandeliers I like at Pinterest on my Plenty Perfect Projects board.